Welcomed guest turned tresspasser?

[kawiguy827@gmail.com]

Heres my issue: my sisters boyfriend is an idiot. He constantly aggravates me and says entirely too inappropriate things about my sister in my presence. Aside.from all that, I just don't like him much.

That being said, mr sister and I are the only two residents, as the family is out of town flute a while. She its enamored with him, however.she knows he presses my buttons. As I've stated in other posts, I'm always armed at home. However, I don't want it to come anywhere near close to that. My question becomes, at what point does the welcomed guest become the unwanted tresspasser? If I ask him to leave, and he refuses, or worse, its she doesn't want him to,.what is my recourse? I dont wasn't to reality to violence or force of it doesn't have to.

Any input its greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

-J



(i apologize for spelling errors, this was done on my phone)

[Dr.Spebble]

[quote=kawiguy827@gmail.com;273750]Heres my issue: my sisters boyfriend is an idiot. He constantly aggravates me and says entirely too inappropriate things about my sister in my presence. Aside.from all that, I just don't like him much.

That being said, mr sister and I are the only two residents, as the family is out of town flute a while. She its enamored with him, however.she knows he presses my buttons. As I've stated in other posts, I'm always armed at home. However, I don't want it to come anywhere near close to that. My question becomes, at what point does the welcomed guest become the unwanted tresspasser? If I ask him to leave, and he refuses, or worse, its she doesn't want him to,.what is my recourse? I dont wasn't to reality to violence or force of it doesn't have to.

Any input its greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

-J
You probably wont get much discussion about your issue cause it comes close to being hypothetical and asking for advise how to handle your personal situation. I'd just say, study the laws and listen to your common sense; common sense should supercede your emotions.

[WillyNilly]

In a perfect world you should be able to talk with your sister and ask her to not bring her boyfriend around.

Your next best option is to ask him to leave and if he refuses, have the police remove him. Don't escalate the situation. You should not use violence in any way.

[kawiguy827@gmail.com]

I dont want to use force.. At all. The police escalation is as far as I'll take it. Hes not worth my energy.. Wil three police even respond to such an issue?

[Karatediver]

If you are mature enough and old enough to own a hand gun you are old enough to get your own place away from the family. Try that.

[kawiguy827@gmail.com]

I agree with your sentiments, however the company I.work for does not understand the meaning of "a decent wage." Although that endeavor is currently in progress.

That being said, I sensed a hint of condescension in your post. If that was your aim, press note that it its unappreciated and destructive to an intelligent discourse surrounding the original issue.

Thanks,

-J

[mitchg]

How old are the three of you? It makes a difference.

[Tom98915]

Originally Posted by WillyNilly

In a perfect world you should be able to talk with your sister and ask her to not bring her boyfriend around.

Your next best option is to ask him to leave and if he refuses, have the police remove him. Don't escalate the situation. You should not use violence in any way.

+1
And since you DO have a firearm, DO NOT escalate it. Let the police handle it for you. That's what they get paid for.

Do you have a lock on your bedroom door? If not, you really should install one.

[kawiguy827@gmail.com]

to establish age and and maturity level: I'm a.25 year old college grad with a steady, yet low yield, job and impeccable credit; sister is 20 year old college student on the path to success; her boyfriend is 20 as well, just short of giving up on school, and the deviation on my sisters path.

[kawiguy827@gmail.com]

Originally Posted by Tom98915

+1
And since you DO have a firearm, DO NOT escalate it. Let the police handle it for you. That's what they get paid for.

Do you have a lock on your bedroom door? If not, you really should install one.

I do not... Id rather just move out.

[mitchg]

So you are all adults. If he is an invited guest of your sister's, who does not intentionally break something, steal, or otherwise break the law, accusing him of trespass won't work. You need to hide your buttons.

And, unless this really escalates, don't even bring guns into it. And get a lock for your door. $15 and 15 minutes.

[eapls2708]

If it's not your house, but your parents, I assume that your sister is as welcome as you are, and that her guests are as welcome as yours are.

If her boyfriend is simply annoying and not presenting a danger, and if your sister doesn't mind his behavior, then it isn't really your place to insist that he leave. You need to grow a thicker skin. Since I sense English as a second language, to be clear, you need to exercise more patience with your sister's idiot boyfriend. As a metter of fact, why don't you try becoming his best bud, then maybe she'll dump him (I knew a guy who used that one with his daughter's boyfriends that he didn't like - said it worked every time).


But the tone and suggestion in your opening post has me concerned. I find it troublesome that you would even consider your firearm when dealing with someone who is merely annoying. If that's where your thought processes are taking you, I suggest that you buy a safe that locks by key, place your firearm in it before dealing with Mr. Sister, give the key to one of your parents to hold on to, and tell them not to give it back until your thirty.

Seriously. That's not condescencion, that's concern that if you would consider kicking out your sister's boyfriend at gun point simply because you don't like him and he annoys you, you have not developed sufficient maturity to be carrying a firearm, nor to use one without responsible supervision.

Sorry to be so blunt, but I feel the responsibility of owning a firearm calls for it if the owner implies he would use the firearm so irresponsibly.

[mark]

the op in this thread needs a group hug

and to seriously think of using a squirt pistol before

it escalates into rk's mantra

eapls laid it straight up, pay attention to what was stated

carrying/owning/using a weapon has a lot of responsibility

based upon what I read, imo, i feel that you are are not mature enuff at this

point for being a responsible gun owner, put it away, do some zen

or burn some incense and get in touch with your inner self

please

[IAmASensFan]

Originally Posted by kawiguy827@gmail.com

I dont want to use force.. At all. The police escalation is as far as I'll take it. Hes not worth my energy.. Wil three police even respond to such an issue?

She has the same rights in the house that you do (like it or not) so he can't be trespassing if she allows him there.

[Merkavaboy]

If your sister is a resident in that house, she has every right to invite whoever she wishes to enter the house.

Unless your sister's boyfriend commits a crime inside the house or on the property, calling the police is a waste of LE resources as they are powerless in removing him from the property.